Breaking Free

Shattered memories,

Stolen reliquaries,

That troubled age;

Wisdom so sage.

Look upon your painted eyes,

Babes welp with muffled cries,

Treasure maps to the past;

Broken beliefs at last.

Rage on dear friend,

Only God will judge in the end,

Explode with all your grace;

Don that leather and lace.

Be bluer than the sky,

No one believes your lie,

Dragon armor shields your heart;

Making illusions is your art.

The past evolves into now,

The mind doesn’t know how,

But your soul knows what is true;

The only person that can be is you.

The Wandering

A setting sun

Strum wise guitar

Don’t look back

You won’t get far

A light in the window

Homeward bound amen

Pretty life for a picture

The stars rise again

Three little words

Skyscraper promise

A man pays his debts

Love keeps you honest

Fucking Cry

My parent’s divorce was tumultuous. Marked by anger and fueled by passion, they fought constantly. Roger, my birth father, and my mother Pamela were kids when they got married and had me. My conception and their union was their unconscious way of solving the problems that existed in their relationship. I don’t remember every fight or even how long the divorce took, but I recall the feeling of unease and uncertainty I felt. As adults, we think children are oblivious to the grownup problems that we play out in front of them. But that is not true; children are highly observant and intuitive. However, despite this, most kids do not realize what it is they are experiencing; the details of the fight, who said what, all of that is over their head.

What does translate for the child is the feeling of the situation. Safe versus unsafe, love versus anger, sadness versus happiness, these are the things children interpret at a very young age. The big fight that I remember the most took place when I was around two years old. It was winter, and the snow fell like an avalanche from the heavens. We lived in a small duplex in Eagle River Alaska. The place had course and dark short fibered carpet, the wood paneling on the walls had a golden urine tint to it, and the lights were always dim which left a depression in the air. It was not a cheery space, nor was it a happy home.

I was sitting on the living room floor staring in bewilderment at my mom and dad standing in the kitchen screaming at each other. Their voices, their words, they all just fused together in one loud, angry cacophony. I felt stuck and helpless. The image that sticks in my head the most is that of my mother pinned against the fridge while she tried to hit my dad. He grasped her wrists tight and slammed her against it to keep her from attacking him. My mother was fierce in her anger and my father steadfast and stubborn with his. Thunderous booms sounded as their fists made contact. I didn’t know what to do, or what was happening, but I was sad, so I started to cry. Something any child would do, something my parents were doing right in front of me through hostile screams and physical assaults.

But my crying was too much for my dad, he stopped fighting with my mother and got right up in my face and as loud as he possibly could, and with all the anger built up in his body from the fight with my mom, he screamed at me, “STOP CRYING!” He then dragged my mother into the bedroom, slamming the door shut and leaving me all alone to cry by myself as I listened to the thuds and wails of the two of them torturing one another in the other room. This fight was not the first time or the last time I would hear these words come out of one of my parent’s mouths.

My emotions just made my dad uncomfortable because he had been taught that men do not show their pain or feelings. At some point, I learned to stop crying around him. For my mother, who was hyper-emotional and overly caring, my tears caused her a great sense of guilt. She could not see me cry if it was something she could not fix for me. It caused her too much pain to not be able to relieve her child’s emotional burden. Either way, I was taught at a young age that crying was not okay at all around my dad, but okay in some superficial situations around my mother. She could handle a broken-hearted little me; she was accepting if I cried from a scraped knee or a sad movie. However, the thick emotional pain trauma from the fighting of theirs that I witnessed, the shame I felt around my sexual confusion at such a young age, the bullying that was happening to me by my peers where all things that made me cry and that she could not fix and therefore could not handle.

I remember many times in my life that deserved a therapeutic cry. My stepfather’s death was particularly heart-breaking for all of us, but the tears just would not flow for me. Of course, I was sad, mad, confused, and I wanted to cry; I needed to release the pain I felt but had no release. I can recount many other times that I wanted to cry, but could not. It was not until the second rehab I went to that my very insightful therapist pointed out to me the correlation between this memory of my parents fighting and the words “stop crying” that I had heard so many times. I explained to her that I wanted to cry about certain things, but that once the swell of emotion would start, and I would be on the brink of tears all at once it would end without a single drop of salty water from my sad eyes.

I thought about and processed what my therapist had said; it felt so right. She had pinpointed my inability to cry; traced it back to my early childhood, but I still had no solution to my crying problem. On my next phone break, we got thirty minutes a day if we behaved, I called my mom and spoke to her about my therapy session. She broke down crying, of course. She apologized for stifling my tears so many times when I needed to express my internal suffering externally. This conversation was healing and did open up an emotional barrier that had built up by the words “stop crying. ” All though, it was not until a recent trip to Mexico where I did toad DMT with a Shamen that I was finally able to demolish the emotional barricade that had been holding back years of tears for me. But that’s a story for another time.

Crying is healthy. Emotions are safe to feel. Feelings are not facts, but they surely need acknowledgment. We are too shut off from our emotions, and yet we let them run our lives blindly. If instead of stuffing your pain down inside, you accepted it and allowed yourself to feel it, the healing that would occur for you would be truly transformational. The pain body, both your own and the collective generational and global human pain body, feeds off of suffering and bottled up emotions. Placing shame on them, and not allowing yourself to cry and express them is what causes so much unresolved pain and ultimately disease in our bodies. Do me, yourself, and the world a huge favor, have a good fucking cry.

A New Day

Shatters of His light

Breaking through

Don’t fret God

I see you

What is time really

But our toy

Push and pull

Hands grasp joy

Now is my moment

Peace is mine

Get up man

Time to shine

The radiant star

Guides my way

Love is mine

Lead my way

Three Blind Mice

Points so sharp

Life frail

Russian Roulette

It turns stale

Her pride and joy

Kings fail

A little boy lost

What the hell


Top the world

Stand strong

To die again

What went wrong

Dead from the start

True songs

Will always fail

High in clouds


Show me how

Burn crazy

Now its my turn

Dare me baby

Fuck this feels good

Life hazy

Now let me die

Live again

The Freckles

Broken to pieces

Locked away

So much pain

Dare not say


A hearts memory

Did we lie

Stars in eyes

We did die


An eye for an eye

Life’s big joke

It can’t be

My heart broke

A Summer’s Blaze

Beads of sweat rolled down my small back, the sun’s flare was hot, but there was a fresh wind coming off the mountains. Summer in Alaska was nothing if not spectacular. After months of massive snow, followed by slush and silt, combined with the everlasting winter shadow, we welcomed the return of summer’s glory by being outside as much as possible. My cousin Sherri and I frequently bounced and bolted around her front and back yards playing childish games of joy.

But this one particular summer day was a significant milestone in my journey through life, especially for a five-year-old. My mother was at work and my aunt Gayle was watching us. Or maybe it was my uncle, Paul. Either way, at some point we were told to come inside.

“Sherri, Cameron, get in the house.” either aunt Gayle or uncle Paul said.

Our eyes widened, our hearts skipped a beat as our two little minds began to wonder what was happening.

“Could it be candy?” I said eagerly.

” A puppy!?”

“Sherri you have Muffy.”

We went inside with jubilance, waiting for our big surprise. It was bigger than anything we could have imagined. Huge! Aunt Gayle, or uncle Paul, had to run a quick errand. I wish I could say I remembered where, but I am sure it was important. However, their reason was nothing compared to our bliss. To be left alone with the responsibility to watch yourself, was something I remember longing after. Sherri was the most confident it would go well, she was six and rather tough for a little kid and entirely pragmatic. I was not so sure, despite my natural excitement, that we would be able to handle ourselves. Would we be safe? What if I burnt my hand on the stove again? What if someone killed us?! These sort of thoughts often ran through my creative little head.

“Stay inside and keep the doors locked, don’t answer for anyone but Pam or me.”

We nodded earnestly and shooed her or him out the door. We looked at each other; there were so many possibilities to explore.

“What do you want to play?”

“I know a secret,” Sherri smirked.

She walked across the living room to the couch. It had a velvety consistency, which I have always hated. I remember it being this mustard gold color that sheened in the light of the sun’s beams. Perhaps there were big flowers, possibly patterns of magnolias, splattered across it. But who knows, that’s just what I remember.

Sherri lifted up the middle cushion and taped underneath was a big fucking bag of weed. My brow furrowed and my stomach was a giant knot, but Sherri just smiled. Drugs were bad. That’s what mom told me. And though I did not know what pot was or looked like, I knew what was in that bag was for adults only. She lowered the cushion back down, hiding the pot once again.

“You smoke it, I’ve sneaked up on dad doing it.”

The idea seemed bizarre to me. But I followed as Sherri led me into the back sunroom, slash office space, that was attached to her parent’s bedroom. The room felt like an Easy Bake Oven. Sherri pushed a rolling chair to the closet and got up on it; she reached up onto the top shelf, stretching her arm as long as was necessary, and pulled down a little tiki-man bubbler. There was something inside, just some old bowl burned and ashy, but Sherri lit it and tried to hit it. Barely any smoke came out. Then she passed it to me. I hardly sucked, if at all. I don’t remember any smoke coming out.

Suddenly Sherri looked me dead square in the eyes. Our two pairs widened as she stared into my soul.

“Don’t tell anyone this, not even your mom. Promise?”

I promised. Sherri climbed back up the precarious perch she managed to stabilize with one hand while putting the tiki-man back up on the shelf with the other. But then, we heard a knock on the front door; in a flash, we were back in the living room being good little children. It was my mom there to pick me up. I was always excited to see her, but this time was especially comforting.

“How’s my little man?”

“Good,” she didn’t believe me, I could tell.

“Sherri, give us a second sweety, go play in your room.”

Sherri gave me the look of death while she did as she was told. My mother pressed slightly, and I exploded with information. I possibly cried, but I definitely broke my promise to Sherri never to tell anyone. A fact she still gives me shit for, and one that we laugh about, to this day.

This memory was my first encounter with a drug; I have had many more since this experience. My life has gone up and down and sometimes zig-zags in patterns of addiction. Whether this moment has been significant in my life’s drug use, or lack of use sometimes, I may never know or fully understand. But I trust I remember it for a very purposeful reason.

ATTENTION: No memories were harmed in the writing of this post, and hopefully no feelings either. All points of view are that of the writer’s, so they are as accurate as possible, which is very accurate. Lol.